For many years counselors have been telling clients to forget the past because nothing can be done about it. While it is true that we can't change the past, it certainly tells us where behavior patterns started. What is more amazing is that behaviors that don't work are more comfortable than the risk of trying a new behavior. Maybe that is the reason people do the same things over and over, rather than the expectation of different results.

One of the biggest challenges in therapy is to get the client to try something new. The excuse we use for people not trying new activities is that is is incongruent with their personality. The objective of going to counseling is "change."