Who said?

This week I heard men on a radio talk show talking about punishing children. Their concern was that they couldn't "take the belt to them." Beyond the fact that people still believe that hitting a child with a belt is okay, I thought about all the people hearing this that would be influenced by the remark. Does it give people permission to use a belt?

The real question is, What did I know about the guy talking on the radio? Nothing! What did the child do to deserve such a punishment? Unknown!

Negative thinking

Negative remarks seem to be a a large part of depression. Sometimes the depressed person makes them and sometimes the people around the depressed person make the negative statements. The end result is defensiveness. Once defensiveness kicks in all communication stops and depression runs wild.

Strangers

For some reason it is easier to talk to a stranger than it is to talk to a spouse. I don't understand, that before people get married they can talk for ever. They will talk for two or three hours every night, on the phone, and never run out of things to talk about. But after they have been married for a while they stop talking.

Men and women who have affairs will eventually realize they find it easier to talk to the the third person than their spouse, even though they have no intention of getting a divorce.

I'm Amazed

Yesterday, when I decided to write in my blog, I chose to talk about "forgiveness" as the missing component in secular counseling. Well within a very few minutes I received an email that talked about Jesus' death on the cross and how it forgave all of us for all of our sins.

It is almost frightening the way God works in our life.

It's been a while

Lately, I have had a problem with time. It goes along with the statement, "The faster I go, The behinder I get." Imagine from March to August. That's five months. During that time I realized why I became a Christian Counselor. Its summed up in one word, "forgive." So often in working with a client it comes down to the fact that someone hurt them. No matter what they do it won't change that fact. The only action left is to forgive.

Being released from our past is the only solution to some of our old nightmares. While it is true that we can't change our past, forgiveness is one way that we can avoid reliving it.